You’ve heard the saying “why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free”, right? No, it’s not just your mom or grandma being old-school and encouraging you not to dole it out like it’s going out of style. It’s actually sound advice, and totally still holds true to this day. If you find you’re the type of gal who hooks-up-a-plenty (but can’t actually hook a guy), it’s time to change your ways. Here are a few reasons why your hookup habits may be hurting your chances of being girlfriend material:
I say might because some relationships have actually worked out even after sex on the first date, but that’s not always the case. Some guys may think you’re a little too, ahem, loose — and might be turned off by your quick bedroom behavior. Slow things down and let him know you’re interested in this being more than just a one-and-done deal. If he doesn’t want to see you again just because you didn’t have sex with him, then do you really even want to be with a guy like that anyway? Didn’t think so.
You know that girl you went to college with who got virtually every guy, and you couldn’t figure out why she was scoring so well? Well ladies, that girl has a bad reputation. These guys know they can get with her because she’s easy, but chances are they don’t want anything more than just a one night stand with her to satisfy them until the next girl comes around. Gross, right? Don’t be that girl. Guys are way more likely to want to date a girl who has an air of mystery and who is a little hard-to-get.
In simple terms: think of your body like a car. Who would want to buy a car that’s been driven a bunch of times and has a lot of mileage?
Behave in a way that you’d like men to treat you. If you have sex often with different guys, people will start to talk. Lure guys in with your kick ass personality and charm rather than your ability to sleep with them immediately. Guys who look for an easy hookup are totally sleazy anyway, and you don’t need a guy like that — especially not as your boyfriend. Even though it may seem like Mr. Right is taking his dear sweet time, getting with a bunch of guys isn’t the way to go. When the right guy does come around, be yourself and let the chips fall where they may. And by chips, I don’t mean your undergarments.
What are your thoughts on hookup culture? Note: We aim to be totally unbiased. Be sure to check out another recent article we published, which examines the other side of this debate.
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