Like most people, I found Reddit a couple of years back after learning that the majority of all of the funny things I kept seeing around the internet came from this site. Slowly but surely, Reddit became my go-to for just about everything.
I would (and still do) use the site to consult with other Redditors on school, makeup, travel, and general life questions. I’ve spent countless hours lurking through the IAmA and AskReddit pages, not to mention frequent visits to /r/funny, /r/videos, and /r/TwoXChromosomes.
Things were nice and dandy until I began to notice several trends—all pertaining to being a girl on the site.
Unless you’re posting on a more gender-related subreddit like r/TwoXChromosomes, you’ll most likely be referred to as “he” when making a comment.
It doesn’t seem like such a big deal, but if you correct them, chances are you’ll be met with a swarm of comments in the following categories:
– Those that explain how much of an attention whore you are.
– Those that inquire about your relationship status.
– Those that ask you to go back to the kitchen.
I mean, when was the last time a guy received backlash for starting a comment with, “As a guy”?
Not all the time, but it happens enough to comment on, especially if a face can be matched to your username (as if that in itself warrants creepy messages—ugh).
There’s even a subreddit dedicated to these messages.
If you’re commenting away on a thread and other users figure out that you’re a girl, someone will make an effort to find a face (and a body) behind the user.
They’ll also let the whole world know with a disclaimer like, “I’ve checked through her history, guys—no photos!” As if a great deed were done.
And here’s the thing about looking for past photos: We all know they’re public. We all know they’re not technically an invasion of privacy, but even with that, what will a photo add to a thread that’s not at all related to it?
It’s simple. Larger communities mean more assholes, smaller communities mean less assholes (let’s be real, it’s the internet).
Eventually, the only communities you’ll feel comfortable around are female-oriented ones—where the same material gets posted over and over and over.
But hey, that’s Reddit for you.